Embracing The Fear
Scared? Do it anyway.
Change can be a daunting word. It’s scary as all hell. It carries the weight of the unknown and the discomfort of leaving our familiar paths behind.
When it comes to our recovery, change is not just a possibility, but a necessity. And with change often comes fear – the fear of the unfamiliar, the fear of discomfort, and the fear of the unknown.
It's natural to be afraid of change, especially when it involves breaking free from the chains of addiction, overcoming mental health challenges, or embarking on a journey of self-improvement. But, as paradoxical as it may seem, embracing this fear is a crucial part of the recovery process.
Fear is a sign that you're on the verge of growth. It's a testament to your willingness to step out of your comfort zone and face the demons that have held you captive.
“Embrace The Change That Fall Brings.”
While fear might seem like an adversary, it's often a friend in disguise, pushing you to confront your inner struggles and move forward. The comfort of familiarity: we often find comfort in what we know, even if what we know is detrimental to our well-being. The familiarity of our old habits, even if they're destructive, can be reassuring.
Breaking away from this familiarity is challenging, but it's necessary for recovery to happen. Change might feel uncomfortable, but it's the discomfort that will lead you to success and happiness.
I’ll never forget, when I got the opportunity to get on a plane, and move across the country to Wisconsin. This was my last and final attempt to get my life together. I had no idea what was in store for me, or what to expect. I just knew that it had to be better than the bridge I was currently residing under.
As I got in a cab and made my way through the airport, I thought about turning back around more times than I can count. I remember being sick to my stomach. I remember counting every literal foot step boarding that plane and making my way to my seat.
Come on Heidi. Right foot, left foot, right foot, left. I wonder if it’s too late to grab my bag and get the fuck out of here.
I’ve never been so full of anxiety in my life. But, I knew I had to do it. I knew that this was about to be a brand new chapter for me and there’s nothing that scared the shit out of me more than that.
The strength and hope that I carried in that moment is something I revisit frequently. Getting on that plane, was the best thing I ever did for myself. It was the pivotal moment, that changed my entire life. If I chose to get off the plane, not tough it out, or face my fears, I would have went right back to where I was at - under that bridge.
I don’t even like to think about where I would be today, if I didn’t make the decision that I did. I more than likely wouldn’t still be here, if we’re being totally honest. I’m not sure what driving force helped me get on that plane, but I thank God for it every single day.
Pressing forward and coping with the discomfort is essential. In recovery, you'll face discomfort head-on. Whether it's the physical cravings of addiction, the emotional turmoil of confronting past trauma, or the uncertainty of a new, sober life. Discomfort is part of the journey. It's in these moments of discomfort, that you find your true strength. Learning healthy ways to cope with discomfort is an essential skill in the recovery process.
Embracing the fear of change builds resilience. It teaches you to adapt, to face adversity, and to come out stronger on the other side. Each challenge you overcome in recovery, adds to your resilience, making you better equipped to handle life's ups and downs. It’s crucial to seek support. Fear and discomfort can be overwhelming, but you don't ever have to face them alone.
Seek the support of friends, family, support groups, and professionals who understand the struggles you're going through. They can provide guidance, encouragement, and a safe space to share your fears and vulnerabilities.
In the journey of recovery, change is inevitable. But remember, it's through these challenges that true healing occurs.
Embrace this journey. As you face uncomfortable changes, you'll discover a strength and resilience within yourself that you never knew existed. In the end, it's not just the fear you overcome - it's the transformed, healthier, and more empowered version of yourself that emerges on the other side. You’ve got this shit xoxo
Join the conversation: sharing our personal experiences can be the very thing that helps the next person. I encourage you to share your story! In the comments below - What fears are holding you back? What fears have you overcome? What does life look like for you now since facing those fears? Let’s inspire and support one another <3
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